Interesting range of responses. I think it will take a while before STBXH is not so angry at me. As it is now, I haven't seen anything from him. Guilt, maybe. But not remorse or regret.
I lean against saying anything at this point, based on responses here. I think dark is good for me now, healing. I have been doing more things on my own and gradually meeting new people and making new friends.
Today I realized that I spent most of the day not thinking about STBXH.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D
hmmm. at the end of mediation, he said "I'll always love you." didn't believe it then, don't believe it now. he said it so that he could feel better about himself, period. it's been years and years since I felt anything like love from him. Eighteen months later, the divorce is entirely my fault in his eyes, altho he left me for an old girlfriend.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
My ex said the same thing at mediation. Actions speak louder than words, it is all a farce. I agree to relieve guilt. People who love you (or are capable of it) don't have sex with bimbos, lie, cheat and steal.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Oh yeah they say some messed up stuff. No way we can be in their heads. Mind swears he has loved me this entire time, and yeah, he had a girlfriend, but she meant nothing and he is NOT ready to move on. Therefore I can't move on either, cuz he's not ready.....
Crazy how they can just sweep all of this stuff under the rug as if it's nothing, but the earth stops turning if WE start to get a life....
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
my xh refuses to see/ hear any truth to this day he will say he did everything he could to make the M work he went to therapy for 4 years with me I never loved him' this was mutual all lies peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
My H says he did the right thing by leaving.. told the kids that you try EVERY day when your married, (yet he ran) told them they don't understand relationships cause they're too young. (actually they understand more than the man child) my H also did everything he could..(but said he wouldn't do counseling cause he wasn't going ANYWHERE with me.. And my H says he won't ever regret..and he won't b lonely..he has OW afterall...
As long as they're happy all is well in the world..
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Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
