I need a new name, VH. I'm starting to feel more and more like this is his problem, not mine. Actually, it IS his problem! I will be fine. I have great family support, and all of you guys to thump me in the head when I start acting foolish. lol
Thank you both for your input on how to handle my mother. I'm going to talk to her and tell her I don't know what I want yet, and ask her to give me time. I know deep down she means well and just wants this over for me.
VH, it sounds like things are working out pretty well for you. I find a sense of peace in the house when I am here alone. The tension is gone, and my kids are even better behaved. In some ways, this hasn't been all that bad.