I would guess VERY much a generational thing, and predominately from mother to daughter. I was fluent in Venusian, too...my mother taught me. Expressing what I really wanted was not ladylike and/or bitchy (and no one wants to be a b!tch aka strong woman!). But what we want has GOT to come out some time so we learn the games. I'm very careful with our D12 when it comes to this. Once I asked her what her problem was b/c she was sending out The Vibe. She turns to me and says, "I'm pissed off at you." While I didn't approve of her language, I applaud her ability to get to the point of how she felt at that moment and share it. I see myself as stopping a cycle when I give her the safety to go there.
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Me45 H46 T25 M22 S21 & 19 D13 Separated and filed 8/08 Moved home 11/08