I know but this is starting to affect whether I can remain solvent. I've lived in my home for 22 years. Someday I might choose to move but I want it at a time that is of my choosing and not because XH is squeezing me financially via the kids.
Interesting observation:
For the last, at least, 2yrs every time XH has arrived to pick up the kids he has sat outside in his car and either sent a text or rang them to say he has arrived. He's been to collect D14 twice this week. Both times he came to the door, rang the doorbell and then scurried back to his car. It's almost like he is starting to feel a little braver about speaking to/seeing me. Must be his recent nuptials making him have a better self esteem
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15