Kerry, I have a step mom too. I do not know my mother. She cheated on my dad and he walked in on that. So yes, this cheating stuff has been a part of my life for a long time. I think if there isn't cheating involved but a marriage dying and THEN a new spouse is found, acceptance can be found there.
You should know there are a lot of feelings to get over concearning the other person(and honestly a great deal of that emotion is directed at the former spouse but easily projected onto the other person). This is a work in progress and just because someone tells you to get over it, it doesn't happen over night.
You are a good guy Kerry because I wouldn't be talking to OM, I would have been punching his lights out. But that is just me.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory