Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Trust you immensely!!! Always have and will. Please know that. All I pray for is we can work things out without needing attorneys, giving you time and space you want and need and when you or the kids need something to let me know. And laugh about this one day, like you said this summer.

I thought i took me out of the conversation.

No you didn't.

[are you kidding]

Can I have some feedback from the emails I posted of what you think of her and what I should do?

I have always been nice and generous, used to drive her nuts, now she wants me to be more generous than she's being.

She didn't think I used to shop, I did, but she was at work so she never saw me grocery shopping, but the fridge was always full. Funny what they forget.

Also, in offering to pay for extras, I was told not to pay anymore than what the court order. But the way she's spent money and spending money, i know she's stressed as hell.

The part that would be vindicative says make her twist, but the good in me says pay alittle extra.

Ideas please? What would be the best way, without going back on my word?

Read your posts later.

[are you kidding]

jack you think that's wrong to tell someone what i think?

i thought i was sounding supportive, she made the reference to "pray." and vs being mad at me for not doing something, letting me know, knowing that i'm damned if i do and damned if i don't anyway.

it never is enough for a mlc'er is it?

[are you kidding]

she also made the reference that she didn't think i trusted her. she's the one not being trusting.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I think your emails were too long. Too many "I"'s in it. And hard to keep promises.

I think she is pissed.

What would be the best way, without going back on my word?

The best way is NOT GOING BACK ON YOUR WORD.

And not trying to find some lame as s loophole that lets you go back on your word.

In the end a man truely only owns a few small but important things.

His word is one of them.

My word is my bond, means. I do what I say, no matter the cost to me. Come hell or high water if I told you something I live up to it.

[are you kidding]

I know she's cake eating with the money.

I probably should've been 10% godzilla and told her only paying what court order stated, I didn't so I'm hosed now. Shoot.

how do you stop that or do you just deal with it.

Oh did i tell you she gave me her dad's recent wedding pics?

[are you kidding]

my word is all i have! That is more important to me than anything else, when i tell someone i'm going to do something i do it.

my word was more important than my wedding vow. I told her 19 yrs ago i would never leave her or have an affair.

She said she would never do the same unless i had an affair or became a drug addict.

i gave my word, she and the kids would never have to worry about their home or the things in it. she's wanting to split things, i'm wanting to keep the things in the house for them.

it's just property i can get stuff, i want the people in the house, not the house.

[are you kidding]

she's been pissed since june, these emails are pretty routine and on the rare times she talks to me it's worse than the emails.

she hasn't sounded nice in so long, but then her tone of voice changes when she talks to someone else.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

I would have made reference to the pray part...

Suggesting that your praying to change something about them is very much like saying...this course of action goes against what God wants.

And that will go over like a fart in church.

Are you asking a specific question like, Jack do you think it is wrong to tell her what I think?

Which creates a specific answer: YES.

A general question such as yours, Jack do you think it is wrong to tell someone what I think.

Creates a general answer: Depends, do you want to tell the 300lbs wall of muscle biker that his hat makes him look g ay?
Up to you and would validate Darwin.

An MLCer is an MLCer, you are an LBS. Focus on being an LBS who is becoming a better person.

[are you kidding]

so it was wrong to tell her i trusted her and that i pray we can work things out and laugh about it yrs from now.

she forwarded a text from d demanding something, i texted back i'm understanding now all the demands you had everyday, all the time.

she texted back "u don't get it, I take care of her needs like i have since she was a baby, what she wants is going to cost $50."

i just texted back was going to take her to do that this weekend and pay for it if she can wait.

darned if do, darned if don't

i guess today was a money day for her, tomorrow will be needs i didn't fulfill.

other than the divorce part, i've had to laugh at the lengths she's gone to tick me off and she hasn't gotten a rise out of me yet, that she's seen anyway.