Keep Your Hands Offa My Mojo

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Oh, hit a nerve, hit a nerve.

I don't know what kind of freaky anachronistic barefoot-and-pregnant-handmaidens socialization this is, but I'm against perpetuating or enabling it. I wonder to what degree WAW rage is driven by a head-on collision between this obsolete socially-determined disinclination to state needs/desires directly and the power/responsibility that comes with being an equal breadwinner, etc, in this egalitarian age.

Why is simple honesty so hard? I ask myself that as someone who came damned close to torpedoing a perfectly good, even awesome, marriage as a direct result of the above dynamics. You have to articulate your desires to yourself and accept them as valid before you even have a prayer of doing that with your partner.

I guess that's another part of the solution. It's much easier to be honest and open about needs and dreams if they aren't received as nitpicks or putdowns by your partner. So working to produce an atmosphere where it feels "safe" for either partner to speak their mind without being encouraged to feel monstrous for so doing seems like a good goal.

I think 'safety' is a large part of the equation. And FOO has A LOT to do with this.

Greek