I think my dear Yoyo, that is it in a nutshell. We had love for our spouses and even though they betrayed us, the other person was an intruder, a burglar if you will. They came and shook our world upside down of course with our spouses standing right there.
In all honesty, I think my ex still loves me but doesn't see it because of the 24/7 infatuated feeling he gets from her. I am not talking about taking him back just an observation. He has hurt me too deeply for anything to ever be reborn of this and I am ok with that. It still hurts. It has been over 3 years and it still hurts but I don't dwell on it. I can't, I have to keep looking forward for myself and my kids. I am just not always moving as quickly as people would like.
Does that help to explain it all any better?
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory