We are looking at getting together this coming Saturday night. Are you up for it?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I would be very careful with that guy. He has some serious issues going on. You don't know what he is capable of doing.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I think she means your ex. lol. I hope so anyways. lol.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Okay Kevin, I shot you an email from work with my home address on it.
Trusting, you are correct, he has major issues. I have tried to be really careful and basically walk on eggshells to keep him from going back to crazy, but I'm kinda damned if I do damned if I don't. If I'm "nice" he thinks he should come move in with me and we should be happy family, I guess with little girl waiting on the side in the wings. Also with him still being crazy and not doing anything to get better.
If I am not gooey sweet he gets angry and vindictive and starts threatening to do stuff that will affect the kids, like not take them to their games, etc. etc. He knows that will make me go off the deep end.
I have pretty much figured out that being "nice" to him isn't doing me any good and is causing as much trouble for me as being blunt and real. I just kinda flat out told him yesterday what I was thinking. I think the sooner I make him see reality that I am moving on and he has BEEN moved on with little girl for the last year, that there will be some kind of closure on this. I hope.
I have come to the unfortunate conclustion that I am just going to have to be honest and stop eggshell walking and pretty much face whatever will come. I cannot live like a prisoner with him calling me 50 times and texting and threatening to come over. Trying to stop me from having a life is taking up all of his time. And making me feel like I cannot breathe or even go take my dog out or go out to eat without looking over my shoulder.
He called me numerous times last night the last one was at 3:50 am. Then was txting me at 5 am. I'm pretty sure I'm just going to have to kinda tell him like it is and ride out the storm. I don't think he's ever (in the near future) going to be ready for me to move on or stop being crazy.
I'm pretty much to the point where I am tired of running/walking on eggshells and looking over my shoulder and am ready to turn around and take a stand. What will happen? I'm not really sure.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Have you thought about taking out a no-contact order..... Texting and calling like crazy is harrassment...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I had one. It just wasn't workable with us trying to communicate about the kids and all my son's activities. He had to stay 500 ft away from me at all of the games, etc. and just seemed to complicate things. He has court ordered counseling to go to, but hasn't started it yet. Not that I'm shocked.
I may end up having to take out another one though if he stays like this. It is so complicated with the kids involved.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
