Not sure if you remember, but I went through much the same 12 years ago. Mine went to a trial, yes trial, when X was acting much like yours. I felt I was pushed into a corner and had no recourse.
Much the same, GAL (guardien ad litem) turned out to be totally on X's side. I was portrayed very badly etc. etc. I decided though, I was standing my ground and not asking for anymore than I would have agreed to. My integrity was at stake and I would not go against that even if it meant losing.
The outcome was and is everything I was willing to agree upon. She is custodial parent because she has slightly more time. That really means nothing as far as parenting goes. The judge saw through her shenanigans and admonished her and her attorney for being vindictive. You see, being a parent in situations like this means accepting you may lose but doing the best you can for your children. I never did bad mouth X in court or in front of kids, in fact, I told the court how I only wanted to be a father and parent. How could I possibly do that effectively with very limited contact?
There are many different alternatives and the courts tend to see right through adult squabbles. Stand your ground where applicable and bend where it really isn't that important. They grow up quick and will come to there own conclusions! Both my boys understand there mothers in a different reality than most.
Nuff said...
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Me 48 X's vary S 27 S 18 Back with high school sweety after 30 years..
