I've Come Full Circle #27

[Yoyowife]

I'd like to add my 2 cents to this discussion. When two people cheat they are equally guilty, maybe our spouses bears more of the blame because they are the ones that had the committment to the marriage and the family. That being said, I think we tend to blame the OP because we love our spouses. It is so hard to believe they would do something that would inflict so much pain on their family.

In my case they were both married so they broke up two homes with children. So my H helped to destroy her family as well. Who knows, maybe given a chance the OW might be good to my girls, but honestly, it's hard for me to accept that they may form a relationship with her. Childish, perhaps, but I believe it's human nature. Who knows if I might feel differently if he found someone else...possibly...because I wouldn't blame her for "stealing" my husband and hurting my children.

Kat, I think friends tell us we need to move on and accept it because they want us to try to be happy again. As long as we dwell on the past, that's not possible. I will always resent the OW, but since I am doing my own thing life is getting better.