11 posts!! How the heck do the rest of you remember what each person said???

Well folks I'll do my best:

CJ and I were CRAZY in Love/Lust our first year together...I think this was a first for him (he'd only been with two other women) and although I DID take the lead, he was right there with me.

Things changed rather dramatically after the first year... ...Although he might argue this (please do, if you're reading, hon!) I'd have to say that for at least the last half of our M, I have the higher drive...more marked differences as the years have gone on.

Yes, I agree that my moment of doubt was rather precipitous...there are LOTS of other good things going on here.

AND wouldn't you know it, CJ made overtures this morning, but as I told him "your timing is impeccable!"...I started my period..

A little too late I offered to make it good for him...he was already half out of bed and said he didn't want to be selfish....should've just dragged him back!!!

As for "shaking things up" well, I've had really mixed results with that....We LOVED the whole lingerie thing at the beginning...but my first brush off came whilst I was dressed for nothing BUT...

It's worked off and on...but in the last year or so I'd say NOT. Not even on Valentines when we danced and drank wine and I wore....well it was sexy!

LL, funny, I've had the same thoughts you expressed: Is it that WE want it more, or that we want THEM to want it more?? Especially with the anti-d's toning down my sex drive I do wonder.

PnT...about the weight...here's a little story for what it's worth.

When I met CJ I weighed about 147 pounds (I'm 5' 2")...I am fortunate to have an hourglass shape that pretty much holds if I'm a size 6 (my smallest) or size 16 (my largest).

When we started dating (over a year and two surgeries
later...) I was down in the 120's. When we got married I weighed pretty much what I do now (140)...but got up to 155+ within the first year (what does THAT say???).

Up and down a bit until my last big surgery 7 years ago...went in at 138, came out at 130 and worked out my way down to 115!!!

Kept up the exercise, toning, weights and stayed a buff 123-128 for the next 6 1/2 years. Now I've put 15 back on...

The moral (did you read all that???) NO perceptable change in CJ's libido, the frequency of our LM, compliments, NOTHING!!!

Now granted, CJ is not your "typical guy" in many regards, so this may just be another one.

But I wouldn't pin too many hopes on the weight being a pivotal issue...do it because it makes YOU feel better, healthier, more sexy...that will help no matter what!!!

And for the fella who posted (new poster, can't recall your handle!) thanks for letting me know that "working on it" is a viable plan!!!

Shiny