A, I do not discount anything you feel or how you go about trying to reunite with your xh.
I simply do not believe in mlc because I have seen these behaviors at all ages. I think it's something that the LBS has to believe so that they can get through the day. Hey, whatever works.
But, people leave because they want to. End of story. I mean, seriously, if mlc were an actual, tangible syndrome, then every wayward spouse would eventually see the light and come running back out of the fog. There would be no second, third, etc marriages.
And I would hazard a teensy guess that there are people on this forum who have been married before and walked out on their loyal spouses "just because." Have all of them come "out of the fog?" Um.....that would probably be a NO. I'm just really sure that they don't give their former spouses a second thought.
And that brings me to the subject of wedding "vows." Someone on here made an excellent point about what exactly do they mean, anyway? And which ones are the "ones" that are meant? The first set, second, third.......?
Humans are the worst species on the face of the earth. We are cruel, heartless, selfish, and will do just about anything to get what we think we want, including wasting precious years waiting.....waiting for someone who most likely will never come back. And most of the WAS will never come back.
I am not saying this to be mean, or to squash anyone's hope, I am saying it because it is true. Hope is nothing more than despair anyway, right?
