K.....he's scared. Plain and simple. He is afraid of trying again and being hurt but I would bet he's more scared that he's not going to be enough for you and hurt you again.
You say you aren't sure if he would agree to your list. Um....any of those deal breakers? If so, give him those and leave the rest off.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!