start routines that create positive memories feelings but -specifics based on our schedules like : going out Friday nights, -going alone just the 2 of us for coffee Sat mornings
Every night in bed we kiss 3-5 times and say goodnight. Even if we had sex before hand.
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-one hour per week to discuss the past (more would be too much for me)
Too much for you and likely too much for him. every 2 weeks or once a month but do not limit the time, it lasts until it lasts, as long as both of you understand that when you talk niether of you is trying to hurt the other one. This talking about the past...it is very hard, for you and him. You need to walk very carefully and remind each other that you are not trying to hurt the other one.
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I think sex will be a sticky point between us. I have this idea he thinks I cant become a lover to him, just his...wife. And I got to tell you, I feel more sexually mature right now than ever and that possibility of a dead sex life is a no no for me.
He doesnt even give me "looks". Makes me feel like his ...granny.
Show don't tell. He might be oblivious at first, but once you catch his attention, you'll have it. As a man, let me assure you that you have the power and ability to do this Kalni.
Example: My wife has several pairs of low riding pants, when she crouches down...
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she does thaat on purpose most of the time. Especially when she looks back and smiles.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
