well today is my 30th wedding anniversary. My father in law died today at 4 am after a week in ICU. I spent last week at the ICU with my H comforting him, saying goodbye to my FIL, with my H telling me he wanted me there, putting his arms around me then going into the bathroom every 4 hours to text his gf. This morning my H shows up at the house and crawls into our bed and cries about his dad's death. 2 nights ago he insisted his gf should come to the funeral to "support his mother" as they are good friends (gf works for H) but mother in law has no clue H is having affair. My adult children have vowed to physically remove gf from the funeral if she shows up as they are so angry with their father and her. Right now I feel like a truck has run over me a few times. Is it a sign that my father in law dies on my anniversary. I feel surrounded by death--of my marriage, dreams, and my wonderful father in law.
Sounds to me like it's high time some BOUNDARIES be put in place.
