Depressive WAW or Depressive MLC?- both with an EA

[Ready2Change]

Are you advising that I hold my tongue for the moment

I believe it is best to feel the feelings in the moment, understand what they are, and delay your response.

My emotions are high at the moment and I feel I would aggressively show my anger.

Ask yourself, would this make the R better or worse?

Should I tell her how angry I am?

Will this make the R better or worse? If your intention is to draw W back, I don't think this is the time to express your anger. Right now is the time to be compassionate.

But if it is a 180, Maybe in an email: When you (action), I feel (emotion) because (specific).

Should I invite her for the fireworks - or let her invite herself.

You are in the "REDUCING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS" phase. Next phase is "DEVELOPING FRIENDSHIP"

Two choices:

1) "We are going to the fireworks on XDAY. You are welcome to join us, but I will understand if you chose not to join us"

2) Treat her like a cat, if she comes around great, if not great.

I still think she is very confused - but some things make me so angry.

Channel that anger into positive actions. The question I ask my son, "Is it OK to be happy and smile?" Son says YES. "Then it is OK to be Angry. How you express your anger is what is important. Is it better to hit your sister, or go to your room and calm down....."

It is OK to be the "Victim" and express your anger to US.

Here is how I channel my anger:
First, feel my anger, acknowledge the feeling of being victimized, then forgive the person that I FEEL caused my anger. I then take accountability for my choices/actions that brought me into the current situation and LEARN to change my behavior. (Radical Forgiveness is a great book on this process and why it is important for YOU)

Am I right in stopping ALL physical contact?

Is this is a boundary you have put in place to protect yourself from getting hurt? Is it done in retaliation?