Burt, I'm not sure which aspect of Gucci's advice you seem to think I am 'fighting tooth and nail.' If you read several of my posts in the last few days you will see that the only point that I expressed any difficulty with was dating to which Gucci has responded.
I'm sure it wasn't intentional but given the fact that you have not posted here before I found the tone of your post somewhat demeaning.
Please know, I was not trying to be demeaning and I happen to respond to your thread while responding to Gucci in a very broad way.
As one that has been on these boards for over 10 months affter successfully pulling my marriage out of the fire I found it helpful to many when someone shocks them, gets them upset (like you)and that leads them to go back and look at their own thread for advice from the past to see what has been working, what has not, and what you have not tried yet.
I learned early on, thankfully, that when something is not working, try something different. Fear is something you must overcome, but when you do, it is a lot easier to make calculated decisions and ones that are not based on emotion.
You can do this, by the way I have read your thread.
