Sandi, thanks for the strong opinion. It is on the shelf and will not go to her.
Out of curiosity, and so I don't do this with any other books either, what is the reason? Right now, I am just waiting on the diviorce filing to show up. I have finally reached the point of no longer worrying about this. I know that I will keep working on myself to be the strongest father I can be to my boys, but she has essentially killed my desire to be back with her. Not that it could not happen some day in the future, but now? I dont think so. There wuold have t be substantial change on her part which I do not expect.
I am looking forward to this weekend as it is the taping of my testimony for baptism. Good things ahead in life for me. I can feel it. Don't know what it is or who it will be with, but it is in my future.
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present
Feeling pretty good today. Had a great swim and lunch with a great mentor (75 years old) who helped me really understand what is important in life and how, although these trying times seem so difficult, they really are just a blip in time. It was a grandfatherly approach, but when delivered from someone with some much life experience ment a tremrndous amount.
Another exchange night this evening. Oh how will it go.....
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present
Out of curiosity, and so I don't do this with any other books either, what is the reason?
I thought you had a list of the Do's & Don'ts for the LBS. That is a big "don't". The WAW is not wanting to stay in a MR with you. She does not want to "work" on it......so that means she does not want to read any books about it or see any programs or listen to any tapes. Take my word for it......it is a huge turn-off to the woman who wants out of the M.
Suggesting she read an article, or you leaving a book by the bedside for her to see...is a heavy form of pursuing. Maybe you never thought of it like that, but she will see it as pressure and smothering.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Sandi, Greek and mishka, quick question. My WAW has been bringing up the name of the girl that i had an affair with 14 years ago. We reconciled afterwards and it was never brought up. Now I hear her name on a regular basis. Why is she doing that?
Thanks - in the nest tonight
ME 41, Her 41 M 18.5 years T 19.5 years s - 12, 10 Bomb 7/12/09 Inhouse Seperation 7/13/09 - 10/1/09 She moved out 10/1/09 - present
