It's not even a matter of hating the ow more than xh, it's a matter of someone with such low morals as to be involved in the destruction of a M having any time alone with my child. I don't have a choice about his father having time with him, but I don't like that either. He has shown himself to be morally bankrupt. However, he has a blood tie to him and should be with him. She does not. She is not the sort of person I could ever consider as a friend or evenan aquaintance.
Oh yes, I blame my xh fully for the A. The ow wasn't M'd but he was and should have respected me and our M enough to at least keep it in his pants and man-up and tell me he wanted a D. It would have been infinitely more honorable. But he chose to take the cowards way out. Oh yes, I blame him for that but I can't dwell on it. Why? For the sake of my child and his R with his father.
I'm pretty sure this would be kat's take on it too. Not demonizing ow, but not wanted her to spend time with my child......mama bear instinct.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!