I think being able to clear the house and go have fun stuff is great for you SR. I find myself in the same position.
I`m sure your intuition is finely tuned at this stage for those times when your H is going through a bad patch. Being able to bail out and not catch the fall out from that is a very good idea. Let him spin on his own.
i do make a point of reclaiming the house though whenever I want. Being unpredictable about my bail outs actually.
Anyway, it can be pretty exhausting running away all the time.
Make sure some of your outings are for you alone-not jsut with the kids.
