If H doesn't see either of us changing enough to make the other happy, why does he still talk about future plans? It feels like a mind-f**k- what does he want from me? He's asking if I'm still looking for curtains for the master bedroom, if we should look into updating our insurance policies (and not because of separating, just due to getting older), etc. I feel like a fraud sitting there knowing that I'm on the way out.
