Got an email from the wife today and a phone call. Phone call was short. She called me at work and asked if we were going to work this out. My response was, you told me this was over and I have to go. Bye.
You did well, and what she is trying is not working. WAW needs a new strategy; she actually needs to wake up. What will come first, her waking up or you moving on? That is my Capt Obvious statement of the day.
Don't know if I did well or not. Since then she has not initiated any contact at all. I don't necessarily want her to if it's going to be more of the same but I'd like to think that I'm worth her putting the effort forward. I was reading one of Smiley Person's post a few days ago and it struck me that I am in a very similar boat in that I was dying for my wife to want to come home and then I got to a point where I could have her back but am angry as he is about the fact that I feel like I'm being used as a fallback or a second. So, essentially the divorce has been stopped and I could have my wife back if I desired.
Funny, somedays, I am on top of the world and just have a great time--I call these my gucci days--life is a party. Other days, I catch myself feeling lonely and wonder what it would be like if the wife were to come home and how our life would play out--thankfully, these days are happening less and less. At this point, I don't see the wife putting in the effort to change things, so I predict we will be officially divorced by the end of the year unless something drastic happens. Meanwhile, I will not contact her and if she attempts to contact me, I will stiff arm relationship talks as much as possible.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
