Ekie, You are correct, things have shifted. I don't want my old wife back. Her actions and behavior are totally unacceptable, however, if and only if she showed actions that were positive based on behavior that meant to heal and better our relationship, I would not be totally adverse to reconcilliation. This has not happened though and to be perfectly frank, I don't think this will happen. So, the real question is how much longer will this go on? And the answer is, as long as I allow it to.
Pretty obvious that you can get her back following Gucci, Puppy’s, and others advice (with a bit more attention to detail). Thing is what are you going to get, like you said you don’t want your old wife back. You can attract here back, but you can not change her. However, you can encourage her to change.
I could get her back very easily at this point. All I have to do is bow down to her wishes and take this OW off FB. Never mind her behavior, as it would remain the same.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
