Trent, what do I tell them when they ask why he choose to leave? I always say Dad left because of me. Your father loves you and this has nothing to do with you. D11 says if he loved us he would be here.
Like I said: your kids will figure out the truth. Sounds like D11 is on her way there.
For someone who was saying that she doesn't want her kids to hope in vain, "Your father loves you and this has nothing to do with you" is pretty much doing exactly that.
And their father doesn't love them, or he wouldn't be acting like the selfish punk that he is being right now.
Originally Posted By: Sad Girl
It's hard. I can't tell them why he left because I don't really know why he left.
Which is why I've been saying, over and over again, that he needs to be the one to tell them. And your role is to make sure that he doesn't stretch the truth by claiming it's a mutual decision, or foisting all the blame off of you.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
