one observation about the control freak/power dynamic issue: - if someone has to publicly claim that power, if someone has to make it visible that they are taking control or wanting to take control of something, they are admitting that they didn't have control to begin with, they're putting on a big show displaying to everyone that they have taken control or they will take control but it's all just a show.
When you're in control, you usually don't have to consciously display that to anyone, everyone around you pretty much knows.
SP you should continue dating & seeing that Miss Someone.
This is a very long process to be sure.
Do you have definite date for "D" day? How is the divorce process thus far, stalled, in progress, what state is it in right now.
Remember the fact that your wife knows that she has to pay a certain amount of support to you, that's another area she doesn't have control over, that's just another reminder that you are in the driver's seat and it's because she put you there: directly or indirectly.
