Rambler: You are doing well for the early stages. Please remember to really back off right now. I (and others) am living proof that if you don't, you will push your wife right out the door. Let her feel as comfortable as possible in her home. She needs to feel safe and secure - otherwise she will feel she needs to look for that somewhere else.
Just back off and do everything you can to focus on other parts of your life. This forum is great, but you can spend too much time here. There is no "trick" or "quick fix" to be found here, so don't go looking for it.
You will need to learn what real patience is and be prepared for the long haul. You will read this tons of times: it took years to get where you are, you will not get out of it in a few days, or even weeks. Patience.
