Yikes! Need help, please.

[Super Girl]

1: Stop that right now. He doesn't deserve to have his feelings spared. You are enabling his behavior by doing this.

I don't understand what I should be doing. I guess I should just not mention him and let the kids think whatever then want? I just want what is best for them.

[2: Bullshit. You don't get to put this on yourself; he's already doing that to you. Don't ever do that again.

Why not? My husband left me. Clearly, something is so wrong with me (in his eyes), that leaving his children was a better alternative than being around me.

[3: There is nothing wrong with hoping. I mean, that's what you are doing and why you are here, right? Just make it clear to your kids that Daddy chose to leave, so it's his choice to come back.

Yes, I hope, but the idea of her hoping and then having the dream crushed kills me. No little girl should have to waste her hopes wishing Daddy would come home.

[4: Who gives a damn what his "thoughts" are? This is pursuing. He doesn't want to think about what his selfish behavior is doing to his family.

I thought as co-parents we should care and do something about our children's suffering. I wasn't emailing him for me, I honestly was going to do it for them. I need to help them!!