You will find that as long as you take on more & more of the parental responsibility of the kids, your H will do less. He will be happy to put every bit of it on your shoulders while he is free to play around with OW.
You do have to think of your children, but also think of the role model you are setting for them. What are you teaching them by watching how you respond to this stitch? Are they being taught that it is okay for a M man & a father to commit adultry and his W will continue to put up with it? What does it teach our daughters about what kind of man they should M and what does it teach our sons about how to treat their future W? Be careful that you do not fall into a trap of using your children....and doing what's best for them....as your "excuse" to stay in a M where you are disrespected....b/c that could not be what is best for them.
Think of the very worst thing that could come from all of this. Then think of how you would deal with it. What would you do to move forward? When you know what you would do under those circumstances then you will be able to have a plan for the stitch you are in at this time.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
