Long Journey .......... advice please

[Sanderika]

(((((Cas)))))

I am not ready to date. I have no desire to do this right now in my life. I feel I need time to recharge my soul and heal from this even if it's only in part.

I have a court date coming up (12/4/09) for our 5th attempt at an initial appearance where our D (which H filed for on 10/3/08) will start rolling on down the track. At that hearing temporary custody of son is awarded and preliminary child/spousal support is awarded. The course is also mapped out regarding what needs to be done (appraisals, etc...) for the D to reach a conclusion. I am not looking forward to that date. I don't have a choice in not going forward though as it appears given my frame of mind about not wanting to shake things up by dating. I feel I need to go forward on the 4th.

For those out of the loop......H postponed all of the previous 4 appointments in court to work on the reconciling of the marriage.

My H and I chatted yesterday about the sitch....I will post more on here after I get to work this morning. It's not long but it did shed some light on where things stand.

Cas, I don't think your H is done either. I think it is a pullback for sure. He admitted outright a few days ago that he sensed "THE TWO OF YOU WERE GETTING CLOSE". It was so obvious for us all. He heard the message loud and clear as well and for the time being he got scared and retreated back into the tunnel.

I got to go......I will post again within a couple of hours. I want all your opinions on my chat with H.

Take care all.....

Sanderika