I'm sorry to hear of your FIL's death, particularly on your anniversary. But no, it is not a sign of anything. Death comes when it comes, and all other events take a backseat to it. Your husband isn't over you. And 30 years is a lot of history. I know, I have been married 30 years too. Your husband is going to have to make up his mind and stop trying to have 2 women. But his father's funeral is not the place for it. You children are adult players in the family now. I encouraged my children to tell their father what they thought of his girlfriend and breaking up the family. I think he was very surprised at how important the family was to them.
