I made my first appointment with my lawyer today for next Tuesday. He's the current elected president of he regional association so it would seem he should know what he's doing. He asked about her lawyer, as he knows most of them in the area, and wants to start planning his approach.
Told him that first and foremost, I want what is best for my girls and secondarily, as my wife is the one who is leaving and breaking up the family, that I was not in a purely 50/50 split mode but rather a "fair and reasonable under the circumstances" mode. He said we'll talk about it and see where things stand.
Sucks to start the process formally, but that's the hand I have been dealt, and I will get through it.
Me 47 W 44 D16, D13 T 23yrs M 20yrs WAW/MLC + Male EA "BFF from H.S." = Misery
