WAW + MLC + Male BFF + "Just Friends" = Fed Up

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PDT - Thanks, it wasn't easy for sure and will likely get even more difficult ahead.

She asked if I'd been reading up on how to best approach them so as not to cause more damage because I was angry with her. Told her I had (did not mention it was the Coach Approach I found here) and that I was going to let her say her peace and correct her if necessary but not pile on.

Think she was most worried about me bringing up her EA and that the EA had prevented her from fully committing to our counseling, hence no progress and now divorce route. She obviously doesn't want to look like the bad guy here.

She said she was going to tell them that I had been unhappy in the marriage as well. Told her not to put words in my mouth. Did things need to change, absolutely. Is divorce the way to get them to change the way you want them to be, NIMHO. Is divorce the only option left at this point, absolutely not.

Over all though, she says she knows that the kids will blame her more than me but she feels so justified in her actions, she is willing to risk it. She didn't seem all that concerned that I was going to let her do most/all of the talking. Believe she thinks kids will agree with her decision. Frankly, I think she has no idea how they will really feel about it.

But, undoubtedly, we will have another discussion prior to actually sitting down with them. It will be the day after my birthday, Happy B-Day to me!