I'm new wondering if this works...

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Hope you won't mind me chiming in to say if it's not the key, it's an important facet of being happy, which may or may not include having a happy M.

Think about it, if you place the responsibility for your happiness on anyone else, how would that person feel? It's a huge, huge burden, and for a person in WAS mode, there's hardly a bigger turn-off. Not to mention that there's invariably going to be disappointment cropping up, on both sides.

And that's just "for him". Taking back responsibility and control of your life and happiness is going to be a very precious gift to yourself.

Shades of "Gucci/Robx" ... who the heck wants a clingy, needy, whining monkey on the back? People always take for granted what is there for them 24/7; they yearn for what they could lose or do not have. Your mental attitude could be speaking volumes to him now, and I don't think you'll like to hear what it is saying.

It's ok to have downtimes, we all have them, and it's so hard to stay positive or even not to be perpetually at rock bottom. But you have to do it. For you.

Whether others on this forum bring their spouses back or not is besides the point. They're clawing their way out of the abyss one way or another and they're going to be fine. Life is going to be happy, and sad, for a variety of reasons that happens in life.