Just to say I think you're incredibly strong at this stage, surely a heck of a lot more stable than I remember myself.
Quite a bit of similarity in our sitch. Roughly the same age. A trigger for my W's A was the diagnosis of a colleague with a serious illness. You'll find it's quite a common trigger for MLC/WAS like behaviour, illnesses and death.
It's great that you're detaching. Personally however, I find there's a few fine lines to walk on if (and a pretty big if) the WAS mode was turned on by a perceived lack of love/attention/focus on problems in the M. Detaching doesn't mean you ignore your part in what led to the root causes of the problem.
Better posters will weigh in to give you advice I'm sure. Best of luck to you!
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.
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