Trying LRT - Please Help!

[givingitmyall]

I completely agree and have learned the hard way on this one.

Yep. Your friends and relatives care for you and want one thing - for your pain to stop asap. B/c they are hurting with you.

One of the best sayings I have read here is not to confuse support with advice. Your friends and family offer support, not advice.

[motherof3]

H called tonight. He has the kids this weekend and also would like to go to an out of town football game. He wanted to give me the first "opportunity" to watch the kids for him. I told him that I would love to, but I already have plans. Guess I better find something to do on Saturday.

[givingitmyall]

H called tonight. He has the kids this weekend and also would like to go to an out of town football game. He wanted to give me the first "opportunity" to watch the kids for him. I told him that I would love to, but I already have plans. Guess I better find something to do on Saturday.

So, what do you like to do?

[motherof3]

I was thinking about catching up with some friends and participating in some retail therapy. Maybe catch a movie if something good is playing. I don't have any specific plans as of yet, but don't worry, I will.

[givingitmyall]

I was thinking about catching up with some friends and participating in some retail therapy. Maybe catch a movie if something good is playing. I don't have any specific plans as of yet, but don't worry, I will.

You may not feel like doing this at first. If that is the case, make yourself do it. You will find it will help you.

[motherof3]

I'm having a bad night. Thinking too much I guess. How is it possible to love someone so much and hate them at the same time?

[robx]

no trying, just doing

- as for the love/hate issue,
it's the same emotion, just opposite ends of the same feeling.

[dolphin_05]

Hi MO3, I read that you wanted to read Dia's thread. Here's the link.

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...137#Post1804137

I'm sure you'll find it an uplifting read. Dia writes candidly and with humour.

All the best to you,

Cas

[motherof3]

Thanks Cas. I will check it out.

So I saw H tonight for the first time since Halloween. Normally we don't see each other when swapping the kids as one of us usually drops off and the other picks the kiddos up from school or daycare. But tonight, S had basektball so H dropped him off at the house afterwards.

It was very hard for me to keep the conversation lowkey. I am so used to speaking with him daily. I miss my best friend greatly.

However, I think the exchange went rather well. It only lasted a couple of minutes and the only topic centered around the kids. I did find it odd that he gave me some photo printouts of the kids taken in the last month. I don't want to end up reading too much into this gesture, but thought it was nice. I told him thanks and left it at that.

Sitting here now it is taking all of my willpower to keep me from picking up the phone and calling him. What I wouldn't give just to have a non-kid oriented conversation with him.

[GoBison]

MO3 it is hard not to talk to your spouse but you have to remember it is the best thing you can do right now for both you and your M. I only read your last post but it sounds like you are handling things well. Take care of yourself & kids and God bless you.