Help... I need to stop reacting!

[Deep]

Rocked, mystery is all fine and good in the romance stage and in the crappy sitches a lot of us find ourselves in. Is predictability and availability all that bad necessarily? People always take things for granted, and WAS often veer away from those qualities, but I feel it's an essential part of the bedrock that anchors stable, loving relationships. Sure, injecting surprises and mystery to keep the spark going is important, but like a thrill ride, you get on knowing it's gonna be a blast for a while but you're going to be sick if you stay on too long.

The point is that YOU know you are one attractive, fabulous woman and if H had any sense, he'll know it too. His loss if he doesn't. You can't force him to see it, but if he doesn't someone else will. That it doesn't matter to you because you are committed to your family and vows doesn't make it any less true.

Trust me, no man is going to be fully comfortable seeing the attraction of a W he has tossed aside through another man's eyes. If nothing else, it will make him think. But you don't have to actively pursue that as a goal if you're not comfortable. Just knowing that you can if you chose to will make all the difference.