She didn't show...my atty came over to me and said she agreed to shared custody, that means 50/50 and cut the heck out of child support for now.
In her email this afternoon She was shocked that I'd go a full wkend w/o seeing the kids. She thinks we're complete opposites, I'm the home body and she's the partier. Would that be an opportunity to 180 her and email sure so I can go out and have fun i've been stuck at home for too long?
She was wanting to know what stuff I want,should she take kids while I empty the house. Don't you love how they want to protect the kids!!! Wants to take my name off utilities and medical ins.
I did not respond to that email,I forwarded it to my atty.
SHE CAN'T GET RID OF ME FAST ENOUGH. Why is that??? Is that normal for a MLC'er to just want to have you out of their life that quick?They really don't remember anything good do they?Their mind is really messed up at this time isn't it, they just flat don't like or love their spouse do they?Is this just escapism on their part? But why do they like and act normal with everyone else?Then they offer something to you like some small act of kindness when you know it isn't,if they offer to help with something it's more of a dig isn't it?
She is for sure more focused on me, more than I on her, especially with getting this marriage overwith.
I know to her, I'm a pest,nucance,stalker,the reason she's angry,unhappy,controlling,needy,fruitcake,home body.
And I think the being nice is bothering her,because she is looking for a fight at every turn and I don't give it to her.
I'm still getting better, it would've been easier not grieveing because of a divorce. But I haven't been needy,I've been independent enough to get help to furnish this duplex and for now the pure confusion of her MLC I get the work schedule I want and my kids. And for now I didn't give up a full wkend day. I'm coaching son's bball and games are Sat and with D being 14 it's already killing her to have to hang with me.
I hope at somepoint when I get even better she'll remember good stuff or am I always going to be the gate keeper to the good for the last 19yrs and to them it becomes mush?
