Hey, HB. Welcome and sorry you are here. First things first, it would be a good idea if you tell us you and your W's age, how long together, how long married, etc. Emotional affair is EA, physical affair is PA. Take a look at the abbreviations thread to help you out some more. I still don't know all the acronyms myself.
Strap yourself in and read through some of other members' posts. You will gain great insight with reading through their experiences and the response of others. Also, if you begin to post on others' threads, it will increase the likelihood that they will stop by to comment on your sitch.
Maybe GIMA will drop by and give you his advice for newcomers. VERY HELPFUL. Read it again and again to get you through when you need it. Coach, Puppy, Sandi, and Greek will also offer great advice if you get lucky enough for them to post on your thread.
How are the kids taking all this?
Hoping for you the best.
BIM
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127