did you get apology? Remorse? Regret? Hesitation?

[forward]

I am interested in hearing from people whose MLCers did any of these things.

-What sort of circumstances were you in when your MLCer said these things?
-Was it followed by any action?
-How did it make you feel?


My STBXH does seem very very guilty. But he has not expressed regret or remorse, much less an apology. He has demonstrated (but not talked about) hesitation w/divorce. But at this point, things are all but final.

We see a C to deal with conflicts. I have considered opening up a conversation where I express how I felt about certain things that happened before he left. This would not be discussion of OW, I would add, but in how he behaved towards me and how I felt about it.

I feel as if this would help me to heal, even if STBXH does not offer an apology. I have considered that he might just get angry, but I still feel that might be healing for me just to know that he heard it.

I guess this feels unreal to me because it's like he just erased me. I want to say my piece. I am not concerned about reconciliation but in healing for me.