Hope and heartache

[awest1217]

I will tell you that I am torn. I think the act of sending her a bouquet of flowers would be a nice gesture (as long as they were not too expensive) because it would show her that you still really care, but at the same time, she is the one wanting the divorce...

I think you should not send her the flowers, but the first time you have any contact with her you should make sure to ask what happened and how she is doing. This will show that you care and were listening to her, but at the same time it is not putting yourself out there too much. It will give her a chance to miss you and what positives you bring to her life. Definitely see what other people say though because like I said I am really torn, but to go along with DR you shouldn't pursue and sending the flowers although thoughtful is pursuing.

Good job listening and validating her feelings!