Not sure what to do

[TrentC]

Trent, thanks for the link, but they only list US companies. I'm in Sydney.

My mistake, sorry.

I think I'm just going to go to the first session with some questions prepared for him/her and gauge their responses. If I'm not confortable with their response, I will ask my w if we can see someone else.

This should be acceptable; a number of MCs I talked to said that a rapport with the MC is important.

I'd just ask them a straightforward question: "In marriage counseling, do you encourage working to rebuild the relationship?"

We do have a family friend who is a priest, and he may be able to either speak with us (he also knows the family history. He performed the funeral service for my father in law and has spent alot of time with us over the last couple of years). If my wife is not comfortable speaking with him, I'm sure he can point us into the direction of some-one good.

I'm looking at someone that neither my wife nor I have talked to: that way we will both feel comfortable that there is no perceived bias towards one spouse or the other.