Hi OT! I think that was the book the STBX's shrink gave her a number of years ago to read and she really did reinvent her life As far as the virus I mentioned, the symptoms have been gone for six weeks or so, I'm just damn tired and every time I turn around a new crisis hits. During the virus I was continually running on adrenalin and my anxiety started to raise it's ugly head. Now that the virus is gone my brain is continuing to function in the overthinking mode and it's hard to turn off. I find myself overly anxious about things that I was concerned about before but would only get a twinge of anxiety when I pondered them, now the reaction seems so much stronger. I'm thinking I need to re-wire something somewhere as my mind has found a new habit...worry! I think STBX still has that book in the basement I'll check it out next time I'm there. She leaves for China on Friday and it'll be me and the kids for 2.5 weeks. Thanks for dropping by, OT.