WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

cipa,

Glad to hear your Halloween went great. Have you ever called out your W on her BS lately? Did your son give you an example of how mom said you were treating her badly?

I would call her out on her BS to squash that ASAP. I'd call her and ask her exactly what she's said because you need to document it for the L. That would stop things right away.

She's looking for attention since she's not getting it from you. When you interact with her is it friendly or very tense?

Actually the last we interacted was before what should have been our 10 year anniversary on 10/10. I tried to see if she wanted to go have dinner together as the week before she was lamenting about not having sushi in a while (it was one of the things we would do when we would go out). She declined pretty abruptly as she said I've hurt her too much. I expected as much.

The crappy part of it was that nite, I was out with my friends and boys in a halloween parade having a great time, when she text "Just realized I'm having the same anniversary dinner I had 8 years ago...." I didn't reply as I thought it was meant to be hurtful after all the BS she gave me when I asked her to go to dinner.

So it's been pretty tense since I found out how much crap she had been feeding me to justify her own guilty conscious. I have gotten to the point when she picks up the boys I don't look at her other than hired help - a very expensive babysitter that I can't fire.

Even last Sun, she showed up 5 minutes early to pick up the boys. I gave her the boy's bags as I had been to let her make sure she had everything. The boys and I got ready and came out. In the driveway, my 7 year old made a comment about the wishing star. So the 3 of us huddled together and said the wishing star poem and we each made a wish and hugged. Then my 3 year old saw how full and awesome the moon looked.

He asked if I could get him a piece. I reached up and pretended to grab a piece. I broke it into three pieces and gave him and his brother each one. I then took mine and told him I am going to keep it next to my heart so during this week when we look at the moon we will know it is the same moon we will be looking at together. My boys then touched their piece to their hearts as well as gave me big hugs and kisses.

I saw the mother just roll her eyes and turn away. F it, it's her loss.

After they drove away, they came right back. My 3 year old was freaking out. I came out and he asked if he could take some of his halloween candy with him. She immediately said they had plenty of candy. He started crying like crazy and I told him I will bring each of them the small bag of candy my buddy had given each of them. Their mother protested saying it was getting late. I ignored her, ran into the house and gave them their bags. I gave them hugs and kisses and said goodbye again. My boys both yelled "I love you" as she sped off.

So she is still "acting out". I don't care. I'm living my life and loving my boys. If she doesn't want to be part of it, it's her loss...