Counseling conundrums

[Gardener]

SB,

I had an IC session today and she thinks I should tell H what I'm doing before I actually sign (preferably tonight),

No. I still think one week, tops. Let the whatever hang over your head. It'll be better than 3 weeks of his B.S.At least apply the 48 hour rule: see what you think Thursday.

so that it's more of a mutual decision

It's not.

it gives him one last chance to come to his senses (which is doubtful but he'll get his chance)

He's had his chances.

H, I've done a lot of thinking about our discussion last Sunday, and it's probably a good idea for us to try a separation unless you have any other ideas. have decided a separation is the best thing right now. I decided to go ahead and get the apartment- I can plan to sign the lease this weekend and move out right after Thanksgiving. I don't plan on filing anything immediately- I would like to see how this goes first. I'll put together some numbers and separation proposals together re: kids, Christmas, money, furniture- so we can discuss how we want to work this.

My $.02.
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