(Of course, that makes it sound like what most people do in this situation -- beg the other person to stay, cry, etc. -- but that would be like giving someone two Tylenol and telling them to hold on while their leg is bleeding out.)
Well you see at that point, one person has dictated how the marriage will go (ie. we're getting a divorce) and the other person is trying to dictate unsuccessfully that they want something different from their spouse.
It's about getting both spouses back to a point where they can agree to move in the direction of reconciliation and charting a course for a new relationship (it has to be NEW, this is so important) and working actively towards that goal and being accountable for their actions and how they contribute to that positive outcome.
