I had an IC session today and she thinks I should tell H what I'm doing before I actually sign (preferably tonight), so that it's more of a mutual decision, it gives him one last chance to come to his senses (which is doubtful but he'll get his chance) and it's not hanging over my head for the next three weeks.
"What" is not hanging over your head for the next 3 weeks?
I'm not sure I agree with this, with a man who has shown over & over to be abusive with a woman who has shown co-dependency. All I can see it being is 3 weeks of him arguing with your choice until you choose something different to get some measure of peace.. or he forces you out prior to that without you having a chance to get your ducks in a row.
If he was reading on DB some of the advice on here will tell him that if you are a WAS looking to move out, then he should kick you to the curb sooner rather than later, to learn the consequences of your actions. He may chose that instead of letting you stay the next three weeks 'cake-eating'.
As far as the letter goes, if you are going to send it.. I agree with the previous 2 posters... be decisive, don't let a chink show in your armour, it just gives him the leverage he needs to argue with you and 'prove you' wrong.
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Dread can really beat me down.
this is a huge decision & step for you. It is understandable why you would be feeling dread. And it can be paralyzing. I can really relate to that. I also believe you can handle it.. moving beyond the paralyzing fear to confident courage.
I can promise you, that you alone have the power to make your life different than what it is now or has been. All you have to do is believe that, imagine what it could be ... and take the first step.
We believe in you. Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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