Rob : They notice that you have changed, you're no longer disagreeing with them on the divorce, in fact you're going in the opposite direction, you're agreeing because it frees you from limbo and you really are agreeing, they knew your intentions all along and since they didn't want be a part of that reality of reconciliation, you're now a part of their reality, pursuing a divorce, they have no one to fight against, you agree with their feelings because you share those same feelings, there is no more animosity, they can't fight someone that agrees with them, you're no longer their pet, you aren't pursuing them, you've become an individual again, you're charting your own course, you're going your own way and you are creating space between the two of you...
That's exactly how things happened with me. The only convos we had the last year, before he asked to reconcile the first time (another story) were about me demanding a divorce in a calm, matter of fact way, wishing him well with the woman he loved (I didnt know I was so spot on, just bluffed), telling him not to worry about me or the kids, we would be fine and we could be "friends". K
