Ok, so H instigated our first R talk for six months a couple of days ago. Six months ago, he was 100% sure he wanted to leave, and we were selling assets so he could move out by xmas or sooner. Assets not yet sold (H has not been chasing hard), but H is getting spooked his deadline of xmas is approaching and this is not resolved. He wanted to spend a lot of time talking about custoty arrangements, especially what days we each had the kids (eg one straight lot or smaller days) if we were to split (he would buy a house on the same street so we could live very close he thinks!). I kept saying it would depend completely on how things happened at the time, couldn't say now, but it was very important to him.
He did say his status is now "Unsure", especially due to the amazing changes in me. I am so happy, positive and highly motivated and H said it is motivating him to be a better person too. He wants to now have frequent R talks and felt much better after.
But he has been acting stranger in the last few weeks. We have continued to open communication on deeper topics, and more often, but he has some sort of secret that he is covering up very very badly. It involves texts he is not happy to get. I suspect either he may owe some money or obviously could be OW. He has not lied this much before at all, but he is just starting to talk to be about his deep fears etc too.
My question is, how much should I investigate what he is doing?
