You are right, it is hard and it does seem counter-intuitive when we do seem to get along right now. As to being indecisive, when she does want to talk about the situation now, I am beginning to see some of the real her come out of the fog, something I didn't see a month ago, someone with some reasoning, not totally clouded by the fantasy she dreams about. IF there is a chance that she will come around on her own, wouldn't that be a better outcome?
I'm not scared of this woman, just desparately in love with her and desparately wanting to make the right decisions.
Setting this type of boundary is end-game, getting myself psyched up for that is not easy. I get advice from her family to be patient, I get advice from my family and here to fire my last salvo. Guys, I am spent, this has taken me to the lowest of lows. After giving this marriage my all only to have some "virtual prick" 400 miles away threaten all I have worked for is devastating. My confidence and self-esteem, which used to be great are both virtually non-existent. I have lost nearly 40 lbs in 2 months and my blood pressure is through the roof to the point that I have daily headaches. So you see, putting it all on the line is tough.
Yes, I do want to fight for my kids, my wife, my marriage and for ME. If this goes south, I don't want to have any regrets. I want to know I did all I could.
